Daily Rhythm For Kids
We all need a daily schedule. We have things that we must get done each day. We go to work, have meals, take care of children, run errands and so on. Our days are very busy with real life. Depending on what season of life you are in, the flow of your day will vary.
Do you ever feel like you have to constantly nag at your children to do the next thing in their day? Kids need predictability. It helps kids feel more confident in knowing how their day will flow and what is expected of them.
We all have different personalities. What sort of schedule works for one person, will not necessarily work for another. I cannot have a strict daily schedule. I have tried multiple times. In the past, I have scheduled my days by the hour and all that comes from that sort of schedule is failure for me.
I believe increasing our daily rhythm is a way to simplify our child’s lives and also our own. A predictable flow to our children’s days help them to know what to expect next so they can flow into each activity of their day peacefully. A daily rhythm is creating a system that turns your most important tasks into habits so you can flow to the next thing throughout your day. It is a schedule without rigidity.
“In the tapestry of childhood, what stands out is not the splashy, blow-out trip to Disneyland but the common threads that run throughout and repeat: the family dinners, nature walks, reading together at bedtime, Saturday morning pancakes.” –Kim John Payne in Simplicity Parenting
We stay at home full time as a home school family so our daily rhythm will look very different to some families who may school and work outside of the home. You can still create a daily rhythm for your children no matter what your days consist of.
.Daily Rhythm in our home. Current.
- Morning walk/movement
- School work/academic time (with snack tray)
- Free time for extras (music, building, sewing, etc)
- Free play/outside
- Chores/Meal prep
- Bedtime routine
I use this daily rhythm as my baseline and then I have a personal block schedule that I discuss here, Block Schedule for specific details of my day. I do try to stick with this daily rhythm for my kids. It is automatic for them now as we have worked on this for a very, very, very long time. Some days of the week our schedule will change as we do have outside activities but our daily rhythm remains the same.
To create a daily rhythm for your kids, write down everything that they do in a day. They wake, eat, school, play, and sleep. Those things are the absolutes. These would be your child’s anchors. Then pick one part of your child’s day to work on at a time.
Establish anchors or main points in your daily rhythm. These anchors can be mealtimes, the start and completion of school or work, naps times, etc. The idea is to use these main actions that happen every single day that you plan everything around. The right rhythm should be as natural as breathing. A daily rhythm should alternate between “being” and “doing” so our activities should alternate between energetic activities with relaxing activities.
I think what many people do in the beginning is try to create the whole daily rhythm from scratch. They post this daily rhythm up somewhere to follow all at once and then immediately something fails in this system. Instead of crafting an entire daily rhythm from scratch all at once, Start with one thing. One small doable change in your day and do that one thing for a time. Once that one small change becomes a habit, then you can add another small doable change to your daily rhythm.
In the beginning of our daily rhythm construction, I started with bedtime. I made the change with our bedtime routine. Consistently every day for 2 weeks, I made sure that I started our bedtime routine with the kids at a particular time every single day. Lights out at the exact same time every single night.
The second change I made was meal times. I made sure that breakfast, lunch and dinner were served at the exact same time every day. Then I added a new habit after 2 weeks of this consistency. I did this until the flow of our day was exactly as it needed to be during the season of life that we are in. The kids started to recognize exactly what was expected of them next. They started to struggle less with the natural transitions in our days.
A healthy home rhythm helps us respond from the heart rather than react to chaotic or stressful scenarios. Our lives revolve around rhythms that shape our work, sleep, school, etc. Add some peace to your home. You will be grateful that you did and your kids will appreciate the calm of their slow and smooth days rather than unpredictable chaos.
Be well today friends and whatever you do, do it with your whole heart. ❤